At the end of April, a friend that I had only known on Facebook that lives in my state asked if I could pick her up from the airport and take her home at the end of May. I agreed, even though it would take two hours to get to the airport (add an extra hour for traffic, etc.), two hours to her house, and somewhere between 4 and 5 hours to get home. HOWEVER, five days before I was to pick her up, some old family friends needed our help on that same day for a medical emergency. Mr. C had to have open heart surgery. What were we supposed to say or do?? Needless to say, I needed to cancel picking her up, and I gave her plenty of time to come up with an alternative way to get home. I thought she would be understanding.
I was wrong. Instead of "I'm sorry, I hope things go well for your friends" or "I understand completely" I got a snarky "Thanks, now I have no way to get home" and then something about learning a lesson about not depending on somebody she has never met. Then she went on about how she ALWAYS keeps her commitments. I tried to be calm and explain things to her. After all, I could imagine that she was upset and wondering what to do. I TRY to be nice after all. I ended up telling her that I was offended and disgusted by the way she was acting.
But what I really wanted to say was that she was being selfish, only thinking of herself. And that gee, there's no concern for Mr. C, who was having the surgery, and Mrs. C, that had to deal with a difficult thing. I wanted to call her a narcissist and a hypocrite. Where does hypocrite come in? She is always quoting the Bible, posting religious postings, and basically thinks her shit doesn't stink. However, when it came to a situation where she should've shown her Christian charity, she didn't. She thought of herself. Not even offering to pray for our friends.
If the situation had been reversed..yeah, I would be a little panicked about how I was going to get home, however, I would not only not be upset about WHY the person had to cancel, I would UNDERSTAND, and offer my prayers and tell them to keep in touch with me on how their friends are doing.
Needless to say, we are no longer friends on Facebook. She unfriended me, and then I blocked her. And that is the FIRST person that I've been friends with who I had to block since joining Facebook in 2008.
I know that I'm probably over reacting..I have a tendency to do that (sometime I will write a novel on life with bipolar), and I know that not everyone is perfect. But she had plenty of time to ask about Mr. C's health or to apologize and offer prayers. It was rude.
So I decided to get it out here...and then just let it go. I had to vent with someone other than my Mom, since I only vent to her and she is just slightly tired of it (understatement)
Sorry so long from last blog...but I'm sure I'll be writing more.
Ciao,
Carrie
